Dating Mistakes

So we have all done something wrong when it comes to dating, right?
In the June issue of Essence magazine, is an article entitled
The top 4 dating mistakes black women make

Clearly, I have broken all 4!

Mistake 1: Asking him to carry your baggage

I used to do this a lot...OK I still am guilty of this one. Sometimes when you have your heart broken by someone you gave your trust and effort, it can be hard to trust the next dude that comes along. I feel as though I lost a good person simply because of the fact that I always thought he was gonna do me wrong or I was suspecting him of doing things when nothing was happening. I realize now, that although you may never forget the hurt, you can not put one case on another case.

Mistake 2: Thinking, I can work with this

I learned the hard way that you can not undo a hoe! No matter how pretty you are, how good you sexing him, how smart you are, how much you got your shit together, how much YOU are UPGRADING his ass. THIS WILL ALL FAIL! I knew the negro was no good, but I kept thinking if I do this... if I do that, he will change for me. I'M THE BEST THING IN HIS LIFE! He don't need no one else. NEGATIVE... I learned that me trying to change him was in fact changing me to settle for lower than lower than I ever would have before. I felt so ashamed I didn't want to share with no one the real deal of what was happening cuz I was embarrassed about how I might look. I was pretending with this boy only keeping him around to save face. Enough became enough, and more and more he was NOT changing, so he got dropped. He still comes around, but NEVER will I fallback.

Mistake 3: Moving too fast

I am the type of person who is not about the games, so I tend to like for people to tell it like it is so that we can both keep it moving whether its together or apart. Nowadays, its hard when everyone around you is shacking up and you have NO ONE, not to try to leach on to the first boy who comes along. I am impatient! I can't wait to see how things are going to go. I have to know now DAMMIT! Sometimes I wonder about the one I let go cuz he gave me the "Lets see how things go" answer....
Patience is a virtue I must work on.
But if you know me I been waiting to long for HIM.

Mistake 4: Reading into the sex

AAHH! The worst of them all ever to commit. When I lost my virginity(lol!), it was an instant afterthought that me and this boy was going to be together. HELL I WAS WRONG! That boy ain't call me for 2 fucking weeks after that...and this was after I blew up his phone! I had a nervous breakdown at Coldstone(I was eating my depressed life away!). He then preceded to tell me that he was not looking to be involved and that he thought I knew what was going down. I WOULDN'T HAVE DONE IT IDIOT IF I WOULD HAVE THOUGHT THAT.(I'm getting out that repressed anger I still sorta have LOL). This trend lead to others, cuz I still had that thought that the sex meant something RIGHT?!?! Nowadays, with random(well not really random, I'm not a hoe!) or a new dude.
Sex=Sex
Sex≠Love
Learn this rule and live it.
I'm waiting to learn what love feels like...

I've said too much,
Besos!